I hope you all enjoyed the Labor Day holiday and got some rest. I rested from work over the weekend, but not from fun. I take being a tourist seriously, so I was out sight-seeing and visiting museums in the Pacific Northwest.
I toured the Boeing factory, the Future of Flight Museum, the Mukilteo Lighthouse and the Museum of Flight and stayed in a luxurious hotel suite. It was an av geek's dream weekend. But by Monday evening I was totally worn out so I flew home and rested for the next 24 hours.
Flying twice a week is fun, but it's also tiring. I was told a couple years back to eat healthier because I would need it for all the traveling in my future. Let just be honest and say I'm working on it.
I was thinking earlier today that I need an accountability partner for weight control. Being a business woman on the go I don't have time - kinda - to run as much as I used to. Truth is, I have time for what I make time for and running, after 20 years, is one thing I've pushed aside during this new season in my career.
It's all about priorities, and it's time for me to make a decision. I have to choose to continue eating whatever I want without running and getting giganticer and giganticer or to change my eating habits. That's a tough one. I'll keep you posted.
Now, I don't want you to think I'm an incompetent mentor because I'm experiencing weight issues for the first time in my life. Of all the areas of discipline we face day to day, eating junk food has always been my area of carelessness, but it's only affecting me visibly now in my 40s. And while I'm being totally transparent, I may as well admit that I'm vain and cheap enough to restart my running regimen before I'd buy a bigger wardrobe.
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Have you seen this? It was all over Twitter yesterday, so you probably have. Of course, I don't have all the facts or know what's behind their tension, but I would've fired them both if I were their supervisor because it was inappropriate. They're news professionals not reality tv actors, and represent a media corporation that's supposed to have a reputation of providing reliable information. Bad news and behavior often travel faster than good, and I wouldn't want my company associated with that incident.
I've been in this position with finger pointing, bickering and neck flying. In the moment you really feel you're in the right. But when you get to see a recording of it after the fact, you realize you look like a child throwing a temper tantrum. It's not pretty. Man or woman.
As we mature our emotional intelligence should increase to a point where we're able to remain calm in all situations. I often think back to a lesson my dad taught when I was young about being thermostat or a thermometer. A thermostat is controlled by an individual. This is self-control and discipline, where you decide what raises your temperature and gets you heated. A thermometer simply responds to the temperature around and has no control over it's reaction; it just goes up or down.
Self-control and emotional intelligence have to be learned and cultivated. They're not intrinsic to human behavior. We're born wanting our way and only through training do we learn that life is full of compromise - also known as patience. I've had to focus on improving my self-control, patience and emotional intelligence over the years. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm thankful I'm not where I used to be.
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Having more month than money is not the business. I lived that way for longer than I wanted and longer than necessary. I'm glad that I sought the wisdom I needed to break through into total provision.
Last week I spoke with a client who owes a $900 debt they can't pay immediately, but they need the service attached to the debt for work. That's a tough position to be in. I'm happy they shared the situation with me, though, because I had a simple and easy solution.
I asked, "Can you afford to send $15 a week to start paying it down? Many people will work with you when they see you putting forth consistent effort." The response was ... thinking ... then the light came on ... "I hadn't thought of that."
See. Simple and easy but they hadn't thought of that solution because they were only focused on what they didn't have. If your vision is lack-based, you'll always be behind and trying to catch up because that's exactly what LACK means. But if you enlarge your vision to focus on what you CAN do, you'll soar because you'll have received revelation of potential.
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You know those people that get on your nerves? The ones that rub you the wrong way? We all have them. It's kind of a part of life. But it's also a learning opportunity.
There's no way in the world that we'll get along with everyone. I don't expect or believe that's possible. What I do know is possible is that we can grow and improve inwardly and outwardly in situations where friction exists during interactions with others.
I recently witnessed and was able to provide counsel for an interpersonal interaction where frustration was mounting and about to explode. There are several variables that determine how to behave when someone's getting on our nerves but I'll only cover a few for us here.
First, we want to check our attitudes. This includes our thoughts, feelings and motives for receiving another's actions as irritations. In the situation I witnessed, the person who resembled the photo above was frustrated because of unmet expectations.
Second, we need to check for understanding. We need to know if the other party has the necessary knowledge, tools and skills to meet the communicated objectives.
Third, we must check our words. It's easy when someone's getting our nerves to be sarcastic, snotty, bratty and the like. Negative words and a condescending tone never correct a deteriorating interpersonal interaction. Use every opportunity possible to speak life into every situation. And if you mess up, when you realize it, apologize sincerely.
If you employ these three strategies the next time someone's pushing your buttons, you'll reap the benefits of being a peacemaker. And if you're skilled at bringing peace into heated situations, that makes you a problem solver!
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In this video I share three powerful tips for stress-free living. Watch and share your thoughts below.
Hey there, wisdom seekers!
I want to encourage you to celebrate YOU. Often. Whenever you need to. I made the executive decision today that - since I always work at home - I'd work from bed. That's a little treat I give myself every now and then. I don't know why I get such a kick out of it, but I do.
Working from bed today is one of the gifts I'm giving myself for my birthday (July 26). Last night for dinner I treated myself to Zip's which is my favorite local hamburger spot, and was my first non-family job at 15 years old. The food is so greasy and so good, made when you order not microwaved and thrown together. I'm also treating myself to a professional house cleaning. Mind you, I did start cleaning like a maniac yesterday so when the service company arrives they won't realize I put off deep cleaning until the very last minute possible. I know that's ridiculous, but that's how it is.
I've learned that being a single I have to celebrate myself. I have to do special things for myself so that I don't plant seeds of lack, loneliness, discouragement, etc. in my soul. It's very easy to overlook my birthday as a single adult and even more so as a single mom.
You have to learn to do the same for yourself. Even if you are in a covenant relationship, the other person cannot be expected to fulfill your every need and desire. You have to celebrate you. I'm not suggesting in any way that you become selfish and prideful, claro que si. Simply put you know what you want better than most others, and if it's something you can provide for yourself without putting you in debt, danger or despair go for it.
Additionally, it's been my experience that being able to celebrate yourself makes it easy to celebrate others because you're confident and secure in who you are. And that ... is attractive.
Happy & Abundantly Blessed Birthday to my fellow Julyers!!
I used to be afraid of everything and would run from any type of battle that arose. Partly because I wasn't trained in warfare and partly because the lack of ignorance about how to war effectively left me with a record of failed scirmishes and casualties that I didn't want to continue racking up. I'm not afraid anymore and my deliverance and courage are proof that you can live a bold and courageous life, too.
Unfortunately in life we often have to work with people who are immature and egocentric. They can't see past themselves and haven't truly learned to serve in humility. I used to be one of those people. When I grew out of that, I began to prosper and experienced great success in my career in public education.
But as you begin to elevate the skill (quality) of your enemy improves, too. You have to overcome something greater than your current level to be promoted. Therefore warfare to get to the next level gets ramped up. If you don't know or don't understand this, you may respond as I did and cower in fear and allow a weaker but louder and more persistent enemy to wear you down and run you out.
It can happen - I'm a witness - that a less intelligent enemy can defeat you because of fear. It's not that you're necessarily afraid of them, but the spirit of fear is at work against you. It's alive and powerful and grows with every sliver of energy you give it. It sits on your head like a hoodie pulled tight and getting tighter and wraps itself around your brain clouding your thoughts and smothering your smarts. Watch out, boy, fear'll chew up.
You have the authority and right to live a fearless life. But you're the only one who can overcome fear completely for yourself, or at least eliminate it in certain areas of your life. I know from mentoring that there are some people who truly believe to the point of arguing with me that fear in some areas is not only normal but required. I disagree. In my experience, being that fear is a living organism - like germs - once you feed it in one area it's only a matter of time before it spreads.
I overcame fear by learning to live life as one who forgives. I don't know what it is about forgiving others that defeated fear for me, but it did. That's power. It's supernatural. I stripped my soul and mind of dues owed me by anyone from my past (and still do as days go by for current situations because forgiveness is lifestyle) and I became the owner of peace that passes all understanding.
Are you ready to live a fearless life? Do you want the confidence to face any enemy - seen or unseen - without batting an eye? If your answer is, "Yes," than schedule a call or book a mentoring package today. Life is too short to live afraid.
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