Have you seen this? It was all over Twitter yesterday, so you probably have. Of course, I don't have all the facts or know what's behind their tension, but I would've fired them both if I were their supervisor because it was inappropriate. They're news professionals not reality tv actors, and represent a media corporation that's supposed to have a reputation of providing reliable information. Bad news and behavior often travel faster than good, and I wouldn't want my company associated with that incident.
I've been in this position with finger pointing, bickering and neck flying. In the moment you really feel you're in the right. But when you get to see a recording of it after the fact, you realize you look like a child throwing a temper tantrum. It's not pretty. Man or woman.
As we mature our emotional intelligence should increase to a point where we're able to remain calm in all situations. I often think back to a lesson my dad taught when I was young about being thermostat or a thermometer. A thermostat is controlled by an individual. This is self-control and discipline, where you decide what raises your temperature and gets you heated. A thermometer simply responds to the temperature around and has no control over it's reaction; it just goes up or down.
Self-control and emotional intelligence have to be learned and cultivated. They're not intrinsic to human behavior. We're born wanting our way and only through training do we learn that life is full of compromise - also known as patience. I've had to focus on improving my self-control, patience and emotional intelligence over the years. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm thankful I'm not where I used to be.
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You know those people that get on your nerves? The ones that rub you the wrong way? We all have them. It's kind of a part of life. But it's also a learning opportunity.
There's no way in the world that we'll get along with everyone. I don't expect or believe that's possible. What I do know is possible is that we can grow and improve inwardly and outwardly in situations where friction exists during interactions with others.
I recently witnessed and was able to provide counsel for an interpersonal interaction where frustration was mounting and about to explode. There are several variables that determine how to behave when someone's getting on our nerves but I'll only cover a few for us here.
First, we want to check our attitudes. This includes our thoughts, feelings and motives for receiving another's actions as irritations. In the situation I witnessed, the person who resembled the photo above was frustrated because of unmet expectations.
Second, we need to check for understanding. We need to know if the other party has the necessary knowledge, tools and skills to meet the communicated objectives.
Third, we must check our words. It's easy when someone's getting our nerves to be sarcastic, snotty, bratty and the like. Negative words and a condescending tone never correct a deteriorating interpersonal interaction. Use every opportunity possible to speak life into every situation. And if you mess up, when you realize it, apologize sincerely.
If you employ these three strategies the next time someone's pushing your buttons, you'll reap the benefits of being a peacemaker. And if you're skilled at bringing peace into heated situations, that makes you a problem solver!
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Hey there, wisdom seekers!
I want to encourage you to celebrate YOU. Often. Whenever you need to. I made the executive decision today that - since I always work at home - I'd work from bed. That's a little treat I give myself every now and then. I don't know why I get such a kick out of it, but I do.
Working from bed today is one of the gifts I'm giving myself for my birthday (July 26). Last night for dinner I treated myself to Zip's which is my favorite local hamburger spot, and was my first non-family job at 15 years old. The food is so greasy and so good, made when you order not microwaved and thrown together. I'm also treating myself to a professional house cleaning. Mind you, I did start cleaning like a maniac yesterday so when the service company arrives they won't realize I put off deep cleaning until the very last minute possible. I know that's ridiculous, but that's how it is.
I've learned that being a single I have to celebrate myself. I have to do special things for myself so that I don't plant seeds of lack, loneliness, discouragement, etc. in my soul. It's very easy to overlook my birthday as a single adult and even more so as a single mom.
You have to learn to do the same for yourself. Even if you are in a covenant relationship, the other person cannot be expected to fulfill your every need and desire. You have to celebrate you. I'm not suggesting in any way that you become selfish and prideful, claro que si. Simply put you know what you want better than most others, and if it's something you can provide for yourself without putting you in debt, danger or despair go for it.
Additionally, it's been my experience that being able to celebrate yourself makes it easy to celebrate others because you're confident and secure in who you are. And that ... is attractive.
Happy & Abundantly Blessed Birthday to my fellow Julyers!!