Do you have a movie-going ritual? I do. When I go to the movies, I always get a soda, popcorn and a hot dog. It doesn't matter what else I've already eaten that day or will later, I get those three things every time. Candy's optional for me, but those three items are not.
Movies for two usually costs me around $50 so when I go, I'm going to see a specific movie. When I lived in Arizona, my friend Bryan and I used to go to the movies and lunch most Mondays because any showing before 1 p.m. was $5. We'd go see anything - whether we thought it would be good or not because ... who cares about $5, right?
I'll tell you who cares about $5. People who've been laid off from jobs and have mortgages, private school and all those other living expenses to pay day in and day out. Homeless people care about $5. Single moms care about $5. I've been in all three of those categories, so please take this message to heart.
First, as a business woman, I don't really fuss over what companies charge for their products and services because I realize they've broken the financials down to value per minute (services) and per item. Overhead has to be paid for the business to exist and it has to be profitable to continue. I get that.
That's a benefit of access to multiple companies that offer similar products and services. Everyone can't afford my services, and that's ok. I service a higher-income bracket. But, my client base allows me to have fewer clients and be able to do a lot of pro bono work. The services I provide free of charge are important to me because I've been laid off, homeless and a single mom and have needed the expertise of a professional but couldn't afford it.
I went to the movies last Wednesday, and when I paid I was kinda grumbling about paying $6 for popcorn, $4 for a hot dog and $5 for a soda. The grumbling stopped when I considered the alternative - sitting through a movie without the items I've conditioned myself to consume. I'm not willing to do that.
Let's look at a couple of the many lessons I see here:
I'm going to continue spending $25 and up to go the movies, I'm sure, but what I want you think about is this: If you're in need of a professional mentor's expertise, but think you can't afford it, you're wrong. If you want something, you'll do what you need to do and pay what you need to pay to get it.
What do you want? Do you want to break through and overcome blocks to success? Do you want to work from home so you can home school? Do you want to improve your communication skills and negotiate a raise, benefits or a promotion? I can help. Contact me today.
The brain is amazing. When a to-do list is created, as we're writing, the brain sends signals to relevant parts that state, "These things need to get done." This happens because you have visual and kinetic focus on the listed tasks. If you're like me, you have visual, auditory AND kinetic focus because I say the tasks aloud as I write them. The more parts of you that are involved in something, the more memory you'll have of that thing.
ACTION STEPS FOR SUCCESS:
As we head into the busy fall season, I'm here to remind you to write it down. Whatever it is ... a schedule, a goal, a vision of the future, a dream. Write it down. Now. You can even stop reading and come back after, but write it down.
I write everything out. I have since I was a child. I've always enjoyed consistency, organization and checklists that allow me to track my progress. The pic above shows one of the most-recent lists I had on my daily board. My daily board is actually a mirror covered with notes of all shapes, sizes and colors of things I want to keep in front of my eyes. What I see affects my focus and I want my focus set on some very specifics things – that's how I foster success.
Back to the picture. I was down to the last little bit of my 2016 1000 km challenge, and I was bored out of my mind with running. I needed a visual that broke things down in numbers and progress. It's not fancy at all, but it worked and I kept running even though I wanted to quit. I know to be successful and accomplish my goals, whatever the goal, I have to stay motivated and on track so I do whatever's necessary to keep pushing forward.
Everyone has to do that. You may not need lists like I do, but you have to learn, pay and practice whatever it takes to reach your goals and achieve success. It can be done. I'm a witness of the many benefits of perseverance. I actually teach how to persevere in order to win.
A simple way to keep yourself on track to completing a goal is to write it down and keep it posted somewhere visible. WHAT YOU SEE AFFECTS YOUR FOCUS. If you want something, anything, keep it in front of your eyes and you'll be motivated to grab it.
If you need help with goal setting or an accountability partner to keep you moving forward to success, schedule a call or book a package today. I'm a finisher, and specialize in imparting that characteristic into others. I can do that for you in one session.
I started running last night. For 15 minutes. I have to start somewhere since I hibernate during the cold months. I always begin my re-acclimation with walking first and then I get so bored with the slow pace that I have to run. So I walked three days and on the fourth I was ready for my first run of the year. Congrats, Me!
I'm using the MapMyRunTrainer app that has a couch-to-5K training plan. It starts with one day running every four days with 15 minutes of 3/2 run walks. I didn't follow that, of course. I wouldn't be Zari if I didn't adapt everything to fit me. I ran the whole 15 minutes and didn't rest the next day as the program suggested. I ran again today. And it felt so good. After the first 10 anyway. But I know myself, what I can handle and how to listen to my body. I know I can run (jog) 15 minutes without stopping even though I haven't run in four months.
I'm taking this as extreme encouragement for a wonderful running season ahead. I started earlier this year than ever since moving from a hot desert to a cold desert. Which either means I've adapted to 55 degrees being tolerable weather or spring is coming three months earlier this year. I'm hoping for the latter. Call me cutie, but I love 100 degrees.
Back to adapting things to fit me. That's what life is all about, right? We have to collect information, resources and strategies and then adapt them so they fit our lifestyles for maximum effectiveness. There are times when following instructions to a T matter. I've learned this ... the hard way. But as individuals, we have the right and necessity to mold things to what we need to be successful. This excludes being mean and nasty and breaking the law, claro que si.
For example, look below at the feedback I received from a client. I gave her an assessment and plan with strategies and it was up to her to implement in a way that worked for her need and family. I provided the outline for her just as the running app did for me, but she did the work to get the results she wanted and so do I. I want to get up to my normal run of 60 minutes 3-4 times a week, and while their plan is good it's slower than what I want as a 19-year runner.
If you need a plan for communication breakthrough, or anything else, schedule a call or book a package. I'll provide an outline and then you will get the results you want.
Having more month than money is not the business. I lived that way for longer than I wanted and longer than necessary. I'm glad that I sought the wisdom I needed to break through into total provision.
Last week I spoke with a client who owes a $900 debt they can't pay immediately, but they need the service attached to the debt for work. That's a tough position to be in. I'm happy they shared the situation with me, though, because I had a simple and easy solution.
I asked, "Can you afford to send $15 a week to start paying it down? Many people will work with you when they see you putting forth consistent effort." The response was ... thinking ... then the light came on ... "I hadn't thought of that."
See. Simple and easy but they hadn't thought of that solution because they were only focused on what they didn't have. If your vision is lack-based, you'll always be behind and trying to catch up because that's exactly what LACK means. But if you enlarge your vision to focus on what you CAN do, you'll soar because you'll have received revelation of potential.
Are your eyes BIGGER than your budget? If so I can help you get things down to a manageable size. Schedule a call or book a package today.
We all have a warehouse of knowledge stored atop our shoulders. I know I sure do and I'm always filling it with more because I love to read, learn and grow. Some of the ways I get to share what I know is writing posts for this and my other blogs, speaking, teaching courses, mentoring and recording videos.
Another of my outlets for training others and sharing my wisdom is the Supernatural Success Mentee portal. I get to compose posts that are aimed toward success, business, breakthrough, deliverance and faith. Faith is important because it's a supernatural force that makes all things possible.
The Supernatural Success Mentee portal is a a wonderful option for anyone who wants focused mentoring but may not be able to afford a package at this time. It's also great for self-starters who need a little more than what's available for free.
Here's a snippet of a recent post:
"So many people need miracles. They need them in their personal lives, businesses, at school and in their careers. I know I do. Well, our brains can be trained to believe for and expect miracles, and it's very simple to do. Simple ... but not easy."
"Note words you use that get the most sales attention. Getting noticed is a great start, but conversion is always the end goal."
If you're ready to step up your success, join the portal today. If you need even more than that - you need someone to hold you accountable to your goals or to facilitate deliverance because you're stuck - book a package. This year is almost over, it would be foolish to continue spinning your wheels and not reach a new level.
Are you a quitter? You may not want to admit it, but it's actually better if you do. Recognizing problems is the first step to solving them.
Let's look at it from another angle. Are you where you want to be in life? If not, do you have a written plan you're working to get there? Even if it's seemingly too big for someone like you go after it wholeheartedly.
Over the past week or so I've been focusing on attracting impossible realities (aka miracles) into my life. I've done this before, so it's not something new to me. What's new are the miracles I'm expecting this time around. Napoleon Hill said faith is the basis of all miracles and mysteries that can't be analyzed by the rules of science. I have big faith for miracles because I've experienced them before.
In December 2012 I boarded a 6 p.m. flight to Phoenix, Ariz. with only $50 in my pocket which was given to me by my ride to the airport. She asked, "Do you have any cash?" I told her the truth which was no, and she handed me a $50-dollar bill. How often do friends dropping you off at the airport hand you cash money? It was wild but a real blessing.
I booked a hotel online at 10 p.m. the night before after being handed $100 from a friend. I simply said, I'm going to Arizona tomorrow on a miracle mission and she asked, "Do you have everything you need?" I told her the truth which was no, and she handed me $100 cash. How awesome is that?! I actually looked for the hotel and had to leave the house after 9 p.m. to deposit the cash so I could book the room. So glad B of A gives immediate credit for cash. They have their issues, but sometimes they really come through.
When I arrived in Phoenix I texted my friend Sharon to check in. I didn't know how I'd get to the hotel and she suggested I take a taxi. It was $45. Remember the $50 I'd been given just 3 hours earlier? Imagine what would've happened without it.
I share this prove to you that the impossible can happen for you if you're willing to step out in faith. I move out in faith all of the time. I scare some people with the faith moves I make. Seriously. My mentor Patti has said to me more than once, by the time she believes for one impossible thing I've done for her life I'm already farther out in the water about to step out of the boat again.
If you've been a quitter in the past, I'd love to work with you and impart my walk-on-water faith into you. I'm not any different than you. I was born and raised in a small town that was only 50,000 people by the time I graduated high school. If a small-town girl like me can believe and experience the impossible, so can you. Let's get started.
Asking effective questions is a learned skill that if mastered will propel your life and career to new levels. I'm a witness of this. I learned that asking the right questions opens up the mind so that you're be able to look for solutions in different ways. I have a video teaching titled Effective Questions available for members of the Supernatural Success Portal.
If you want to be successful in any area of life being able to communicate effectively is crucial. Part of being an effective communicator is being a good listener, and as you listen you'll hear that many don't properly _say what they want, what they mean or ask for it. You can gauge your effectiveness by tracking how many statements you make that receive the desired outcome each time.
Also, many misuse declarative and interrogative statements. Misuse hinders the ability to have needs met. For example, someone said to me the other day, "I need this problem solved," and continued on about their business. Then they returned to me and inquired as to why I hadn't solved their problem. There was miscommunication and their need wasn't met at the speed they desired. Instead of asking me to solve the problem, they only shared with me (stated) their problem existed.
To communicate effectively, be aware of making statements when necessary and ask questions when you need answers. I realize that bosses and employers often make statements similar to the one above and they need, expect and require employees solve their problems swiftly. That makes sense because an employee is under contractual obligation to exchange their time and work for income.
This is similarly true in high-stakes relationships such as husbands and wives and parents and children. One will say to the other, "I need ...," or "I want ...," instead of forming a question. The level of comfort in those situations often warrants less formal communication practices.
But there are times where we may not receive what we need if we fail to build a foundation through statements and then present the question needing an answer.
Are others responding to you the way you want them to? Are you getting what you ask for? I encourage you to pay close attention to your communication and determine if you're reaping the harvests you expect. If you need help improving your communication book a Communication Superstar session today. In 30 minutes we can take a analyze what you're doing and develop a plan for improvement. Book before 10/31/15 for 50% OFF.
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