 I'm serious about my goals. So serious that I have three success goals that I've set a deadline to achieve. This note that you see above is on my focus board. I see it every day and I've even begun sharing with others that these things need to be done by that time. I'm sharing because speaking it out and hearing it solidifies it in my brain, and also because I'm excited about it. We always share what we're passionate about ... it's human nature and it's a good thing. Sharing also keeps me (us) accountable because those I share with will ask how I'm doing with my goals and I'll have to tell them, I'm on track for success or that I'm falling short. I do not like to fall short. What are you doing to document and track your goals, and to keep yourself accountable? If you have a system in place, it's a lot easier to hit your target. I'm a witness. If I can be of assistance to you as you work to break through the place of transition to give birth to a new season in your life, relationships or finances I'm available. Schedule a call or book a package and we'll get you on the road to that next level of success you've been wanting to reach.  Have you seen this? It was all over Twitter yesterday, so you probably have. Of course, I don't have all the facts or know what's behind their tension, but I would've fired them both if I were their supervisor because it was inappropriate. They're news professionals not reality tv actors, and represent a media corporation that's supposed to have a reputation of providing reliable information. Bad news and behavior often travel faster than good, and I wouldn't want my company associated with that incident. I've been in this position with finger pointing, bickering and neck flying. In the moment you really feel you're in the right. But when you get to see a recording of it after the fact, you realize you look like a child throwing a temper tantrum. It's not pretty. Man or woman. As we mature our emotional intelligence should increase to a point where we're able to remain calm in all situations. I often think back to a lesson my dad taught when I was young about being thermostat or a thermometer. A thermostat is controlled by an individual. This is self-control and discipline, where you decide what raises your temperature and gets you heated. A thermometer simply responds to the temperature around and has no control over it's reaction; it just goes up or down. Self-control and emotional intelligence have to be learned and cultivated. They're not intrinsic to human behavior. We're born wanting our way and only through training do we learn that life is full of compromise - also known as patience. I've had to focus on improving my self-control, patience and emotional intelligence over the years. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm thankful I'm not where I used to be. If you're struggling with self-control, patience or emotional intelligence be encouraged because you can improve. I can help you assess the situation, compose a plan to increase in the areas of deficiency and track your progress as you implement proven strategies. Schedule a call or book a package today.   In this video I share three powerful tips for stress-free living. Watch and share your thoughts below. It's always funny to hear little kids say, "You're not the boss of me!" Truth is adults say that, too, although usually in their minds instead of verbally. Well, if we want to succeed - really succeed - in all areas of life, we must learn to follow instructions given by those who're assigned to mentor and teach us. Watch this short video and share a time when you've followed a mentor's instructions and experienced success. ZariMy first and main Mentor inspired the instructions to be doers and not only hearers. If you want a quick piece of advice for success that’s it right there – be a doer and not only a hearer. I have the most success with mentees who are doers. And when they follow my instructions and do the work, they’ll achieve every breakthrough they’re seeking. It’s a guarantee. That makes for a great mentee: one who listens, receives the revelation and then acts on it. That’s the basics of being a winner. Hear and then do. Last week I mentioned that being a proficient listener wasn’t natural to me. It’s not natural to anyone. Look at toddlers. We are taught to listen by experiencing the positive rewards it brings. Great mentees hear, receive and do. Poor mentees choose otherwise and remain stuck. You're a poor mentee if you one who replies to advice given with comments such as, "I know, but ..." and "You don't understand what they did to me." You know what? I know they hurt you. I know what they did was wrong. The problem is you're the one dwelling on it instead of healing and thriving, and they're not. And you very well may "know" with your head what I speak to you, but you haven't implemented the revelation in your heart or life or you would be living abundantly and not in need of the deep work that I do. I’m a doer. A successful doer, not a spinning my wheels going around in circles because I refuse to change doer. Even when I don’t have someone else walking through a situation directly with me, I still do because I want the next level. Whatever that next level is. For example, I’m sacrificing sleep by working from 3 a.m. to 6 a.m. to get to the next levels in a few areas of my life. No one else is walking through this with me, no one else suggested I do it, but I’m doing it because I know I’ll get where I want to be in a specified amount of time. How do I KNOW I’ll get to the next levels? I know because I’ve made a similar sacrifice before and achieved the results I needed and also because actions have natural reactions and my actions are producing the reactions I desire. I’m not just doing to do. I’m focused and am performing a specific pattern of tasks that lead to specific results. I’m only about 33% of the way through my program and I’ve already experienced more breakthroughs than I can count. Become a doer. Stop just hearing and not doing and you will succeed. I'm a witness. When you're ready, schedule a call or book a mentoring package. If you need a custom package that we create together, that's perfectly fine. I do it all the time for clients whose budgets are in between one of the standard packages. The goal is to get you to a place where you're experiencing the life of your dreams because it is possible. Time flies, don't wait.    |
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