As parents we have a responsibility to prepare our teens for life as adults. It's not easy, but it must and can be done.
Happy, Blessed & Prosperous New Year, dear ones!
I'm putting another annual planner to rest this week. It's amazing how fast time goes by. It seems it takes forever to get to 16, 18 and 21 years old but then when you hit 30 everything's accelerated and there's no stopping it.
I'm excited for 2016. Are you? Or are you dreading it? I hope you're not dreading it but I understand if you may be. The last quarter of 2015 was rough for a lot of folks. Myself included. I had to fight through some ugliness to secure the vision for 2016. If you've been struggling in anything you have to do the same - press through and grab hold of the light shining through. No matter how small the glimmer of that light, if you fully take hold of it you have enough to keep you going until breakthrough comes. It will come. I'm a witness.
As soon as you get the vision for the days head, be sure to write it down. Seeing it in your mind's eye is always the first step to achievement and attainment but don't stop there. Write it down. Rehearse it by speaking it out. Share your vision with others. Do the necessary work.
I dedicated the last 40 days of 2015 to put the tent pegs in the ground for the personal territory I'm taking in 2016. Throughout the upcoming year I'll share parts of my process so you can learn from the supernatural strategies I implemented and gleaned during that time. I hope that'll encourage you to keep moving forward in all you've endeavored to do.
In the email I sent out to subscribers this week there's a coupon for 50% OFF mentoring packages and a payment plan option. Also, I'd like to invite you to register for the FREE Prepare to Launch 2016 webinar, January 15 1 p.m. to 5 p.m. EST hosted by Linda Dominique Grosvenor-Holland The Grow Your Dreams Midwife™.
The best is yet to come.
I'm a single mother and former elementary school teacher so when I began my professional mentoring business I focused on mentoring single parents and young children. Watch this video and see if you're serving the right tribe for your current season of life.
This article originally appeared on the Linda Dominique Grosvenor-Holland, The Grow Your Dreams Midwife(TM) site. I'm sharing this with you because it's not information that I write on myself but it's valuable, straight forward and provided by an expert from whom I learn much. She's one of my mentors. Also, over the last six months I've advised at least five clients to commit to blogs to get their writings and books exposure and sales. I want you to be successful in every area of life, and if I don't give you the wisdom directly, I'll point you in the right direction.
Are thinking about blogging but just don’t know where to start? Here are 5 quick tips for the serious blogger:
1. Get off the freebie blog sites. You may be comfy there and it may be easy because they host everything for you - including your photos and audios - but if you’re trying to build something lasting and make money at it, at the very least you need to OWN IT! That means buy your own domain and start blogging there. Inbox me and I can get you started blogging in a weekend! I got my husband’s blog up and running in less than an hour, and it only took that long because he was deciding on a template.
2. You need to understand and start using social networks. Sure you may love Facebook and hate Twitter or you may hate Twitter and love Instagram, but if you’re trying to spread the word about your blog you’re going to have to learn how to draw people to your blog not just by using what you like to use but by using what your target audience uses as well. That also means you’re going to have to break out of your stifling tight circle of church or work friends, too. Yep, you’ll have to reach out and let complete strangers like, follow and/or friend you ... oh my!
3. Guest Blogging is an option. But it’s an option you don’t want to abuse. You don’t want to harass popular bloggers and gurus with requests to come to your blog and share all that they know. If your blog has nothing to offer them in terms of traffic or even a free ad for 3 months it’s a bit unfair. A better option is to build your reputation and traffic a bit first before you launch out in search of guest bloggers, or even just begin sharing what you know. Become the expert of your own blog before you go looking outside of your blog and once the traffic starts coming guest bloggers won’t mind coming along for the ride too.
As a mentor and teacher I help you identify, learn and implement strategies that promote extraordinary success. That's what I'm called to do. It's my purpose and passion. As we work and learn together your Breakthrough Toolbox gets filled up and you live out your destiny as your authentic self. It's a win-win situation.
I call the strategies supernatural, others call them life hacks. Either way, they're small, hard-hitting actions that produce multiplied results. That's my style. It always has been. When given a task I always try to find the easiest way to get to the goal I desire. Short cuts ... yes. Lack of excellence ... no.
I believe I'm this way partly because I'm a baby/last born and want everything to be fun and exciting. For example, take a look at the About page on this site. Several people asked why I didn't have a bio or something similar on this page and I told them the truth - I do not enjoy writing personal bios. Then two friends whom I respect, love and admire asked why I didn't have a bio on this page so I took that as a sign that it was time to make a correction (gotta pay attention to signs, folks. They often include opportunities).
I don't like writing personal bios which doesn't make sense because I'm a writer. A writer who gets paid to write that type of promotional copy for others no less. So, I pulled a common parenting/teaching strategy out of my toolbox and got the job done. The strategy was to write the bio from a different point of view. I wrote it as an actual biography instead of an autobiography and employed third person pov.
See that? A simple strategy that made a dreaded but necessary task not only doable, but fun. And, it's been well received. Every time I post the link to the About page on FB it gets more than 100 views and several comments. I've even received emails about the information included in my bio. That's supernatural.
Now consider this: What area of your life could you use a supernatural strategy to receive a breakthrough right now? After you've identified the area, schedule a call so you can grab hold of your promotion. Mailing listers get 50% OFF all mentoring packages booked by July 31, 2015.
I've recently entered a new season brought about because I feel crowded need more room. You know how it gets sometimes - you're not frustrated because you don't know what to do but because you do know what your next steps are, they're just not manifesting.
I took this situation to an expert. I made an appointment with my mentor and told him what I was feeling, seeing, hearing and what was happening in my life. When he gave me wisdom he said many of the things I'd journaled myself, but hadn't mentioned to him. That's one of the benefits of being in agreement with a mentor - their confirmation of unspoken dreams, visions and plans encourages you to continue moving forward to your destiny.
Keeping in contact with a mentor for each specific area of my life is a strategy in my Breakthrough Toolbox. I know I have to complete the majority of the work alone, but I won't risk my destiny for failing to seek wisdom from trusted advisors. I have the final say, of course, but another perspective is invaluable for those who live lives of purpose and intention.
One of the things I journaled and my mentor said in his advice that rang loudly in my ears was, "When I feel I'm being pushed out of the nest ..." I journaled and spoke those words one day earlier recording, "I've outgrown this nest so it's time to go." That was the first confirmation in our communication. It's also an important one because I'm considering relocation.
Another thing He said concerned my family and I'd recently had a series of dreams that carried the same sentiments. All confirmations of what I'm preparing for and moving into in the days ahead. These weren't the only ones either. In all we were on the same page about everything I'd been mulling over privately and with those most affected by my decisions.
The last reminder he gave was to go where I'm celebrated and not tolerated. I hear this all the time, I say it all the time and yet, that day it really resonated with me. When I'm in a nest that I'm too big for I'm absolutely only being tolerated. No one will celebrate me when I'm flapping my eagle's wings in their faces because there's nowhere else to go. That's just annoying and if it continues it will cause strife and anger.
I understand that everyone isn't self-employed so you may not believe you can apply for promotions or switch companies or positions when you outgrow your nests. Why not? What's limiting or stopping you? Why would you want to remain in a nest that's too small for you? If you don't first think it's possible, you'll never grow to believe it's possible and you'll never have the once seemingly impossible.
It's my responsibility as a mentor to help you see it is possible, believe it's possible and make a plan of action to obtain the impossible. Enough people throughout history have burst out of their nests with focus and achieved success to give you the hope and courage to do the same. You have a destiny and desires for a purpose and sitting on them stifles you and drives you mad.
I welcome this new season. I'm excited about it and I'm looking forward to the greater that's in store for me as I fully stretch my wings again.
Copyright © 2015
I recently doled out some major wisdom in a mentoring session and I'm sharing it here because it's needed. If you have ears and eyes that grab hold of I'm all saying, you'll want to take the next steps to schedule a call or book a package.
Living an abundant life is up to you. No one else can do that for you. If you want it badly enough, you'll have to take steps to get it, and if you follow these steps I've offered here, you'll be heads and tails above many who continue to spin wheels because they lack proper vision and wisdom.
Copyright © 2015 Zari Banks, M.Ed
I know you look beautiful when working out but that ain't me. The message here is important, though. Listen and see if you can catch it.
I went to a local coffee shop this afternoon (17/5/2015) before I sat down to write some books and had an interesting encounter. The cashier incorrectly input the amount I gave her and became confused, and then proceeded to ask me what my change should be. I told her the correct and honest amount and as she was counting it out to return to me, she said, "I'm not very good at math (chuckle)."
My eyes grew wide and my thoughts were going a mile a minute:
Seriously ... my mind was going a mile a minute. I work toward and teach principles of excellence. Everything I produce isn't perfect I know, but I continue to work on things as necessary because continued growth is the only guaranteed path *to* excellence.
This is the problem I have with minimum wage, unions and organizations such as school districts that pay everyone the same based on some system. Everyone doesn't have the same competence as everyone else so why do they all get paid the same? It's not logical at all. I'm able to garner the fees that I garner because of my difference and competence in my area(s) of expertise to date. A year from now, I'll be worth more per hour than I am now because I'm constantly learning more, breaking through in new areas that were previously blocked and adding more skills to my toolbox that set me farther apart from the average mass.
The same day I had the above enounter I read this headline from Tucson's newspaper, The Arizona Daily Star:
Pima Community College: Most local high school grads need remedial help
and the subtitle:
Nearly 90 percent of local grads entering PCC are deficient in reading, writing or math.
That's a shame. And they want $15 an hour as a minimum wage. How do you deserve $15 an hour if you can't read, write or count? Minimum wage was set up on the theory of possessing basic competence with no college education or specialized training required. If you're deficient in RWM, you're below minimum competence and therefore, by minimum wage's own principle you shouldn't really expect to be gainfully employed.
It's interesting that as a certified teacher, you can't make enough to support more than one person without a graduate degree. On top of that these days you can't even get a job in many places without additional education to receive some type of English as a Second Language or Structured English Immersion certification. These are things that increase competence - and should increase ability - but don't afford you an increase in pay unless you're in a district where having that certification puts you in the minority. And that's getting an increase for your difference.
I haven't always believed this way. Up until a few years ago I was in the matrix and was happy-go-lucky understanding that I'd never make more than $60K a year after 20-something years as a teacher. My mind wasn't renewed until I got fed up with someone else determining what I could I have, do and what my income cap would be. Being homeless will do that for you. I got to the point where my eyes opened to see that money was being made and transferring hands daily and all I had to do was enter the marketplace with a product(s) that met a need. Once you enter the marketplace there's no more limit to your income potential.
Minimum wage and income caps aren't my destiny, and I truly doubt that's yours. If you're in the matrix and want to get out make up your mind to exit and schedule a call or book a package today. In 20 minutes or so I can pinpoint the areas that are holding you back from where you want to be and give you strategies to leap over those walls and succeed.
Author, Teacher, Mentor and Speaker