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I hope you all enjoyed the Labor Day holiday and got some rest. I rested from work over the weekend, but not from fun. I take being a tourist seriously, so I was out sight-seeing and visiting museums in the Pacific Northwest. I toured the Boeing factory, the Future of Flight Museum, the Mukilteo Lighthouse and the Museum of Flight and stayed in a luxurious hotel suite. It was an av geek's dream weekend. But by Monday evening I was totally worn out so I flew home and rested for the next 24 hours. Flying twice a week is fun, but it's also tiring. I was told a couple years back to eat healthier because I would need it for all the traveling in my future. Let just be honest and say I'm working on it. I was thinking earlier today that I need an accountability partner for weight control. Being a business woman on the go I don't have time - kinda - to run as much as I used to. Truth is, I have time for what I make time for and running, after 20 years, is one thing I've pushed aside during this new season in my career. It's all about priorities, and it's time for me to make a decision. I have to choose to continue eating whatever I want without running and getting giganticer and giganticer or to change my eating habits. That's a tough one. I'll keep you posted. Now, I don't want you to think I'm an incompetent mentor because I'm experiencing weight issues for the first time in my life. Of all the areas of discipline we face day to day, eating junk food has always been my area of carelessness, but it's only affecting me visibly now in my 40s. And while I'm being totally transparent, I may as well admit that I'm vain and cheap enough to restart my running regimen before I'd buy a bigger wardrobe. If you need help starting a business, tackling communication issues or improving your financial realm, give me a call or book a package. I've done these things myself and have been assisting others for the last four years to do the same.   What you see above is a record of debt owed to me and payments made by my son. Earlier this year he wanted to make a large purchase that was outside of his current financial ability, and he approached me for credit. We discussed it and I agreed that it was a worthwhile investment for him because the product relates to his income source and one of his dreams (future goals), and because it was a lesson on debt that I want him to internalize ASAP. You know, it's one thing for me to repeatedly say don't get into debt, and another, more powerful thing for him to experience it. This isn't the first time he's experienced being indebted to me for a purchase, of course, and obviously owing me hasn't hit him hard enough just yet so I'm thankful the opportunity presented itself again while he's still under my charge. I was inspired to write this post today (6.29.2016) because he came to me and asked for money, and I happily replied, "I will not loan you anything else until your current debt is cleared." And let me tell ya ... he put in an hour's work to get back on track settling this debt because he doesn't want his bank to remain closed. Folks have asked me about giving allowances and how I determine how much to pay him, and I'll share that with you in a future post later this month. My most-popular mentoring session is The Financial Breakthrough. If you're in need of a money turnaround. Don't wait another minute. Schedule with me today to prepare for increase in your future.  There's nothing better than reading in someone's own words how you impacted their life. Today I'm sharing a recent testimonial I received from a client. Remember: we can take someone else's testimony and use it to construct a vision of what's also possible for us in the future. If it can happen for one, it can happen for us all. If you're ready to start living the life of your dreams, schedule a call or book a package today.   Have you seen this? It was all over Twitter yesterday, so you probably have. Of course, I don't have all the facts or know what's behind their tension, but I would've fired them both if I were their supervisor because it was inappropriate. They're news professionals not reality tv actors, and represent a media corporation that's supposed to have a reputation of providing reliable information. Bad news and behavior often travel faster than good, and I wouldn't want my company associated with that incident. I've been in this position with finger pointing, bickering and neck flying. In the moment you really feel you're in the right. But when you get to see a recording of it after the fact, you realize you look like a child throwing a temper tantrum. It's not pretty. Man or woman. As we mature our emotional intelligence should increase to a point where we're able to remain calm in all situations. I often think back to a lesson my dad taught when I was young about being thermostat or a thermometer. A thermostat is controlled by an individual. This is self-control and discipline, where you decide what raises your temperature and gets you heated. A thermometer simply responds to the temperature around and has no control over it's reaction; it just goes up or down. Self-control and emotional intelligence have to be learned and cultivated. They're not intrinsic to human behavior. We're born wanting our way and only through training do we learn that life is full of compromise - also known as patience. I've had to focus on improving my self-control, patience and emotional intelligence over the years. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm thankful I'm not where I used to be. If you're struggling with self-control, patience or emotional intelligence be encouraged because you can improve. I can help you assess the situation, compose a plan to increase in the areas of deficiency and track your progress as you implement proven strategies. Schedule a call or book a package today.   Mentors are excellent accountability partners as you travel the road to success.  DISCLAIMER: If you're not ready for some blunt truth DON'T READ THIS. As a mentor I often help clients get unstuck and move out of wilderness seasons into harvest. But I have to admit there are a few who choose not to heed my wisdom and therefore, choose to remain stuck. That's right, dear ones, it's always our choice to take action or not. I recently spoke with someone who stated they had no control of their time. There's no truth to that testament. Even if you submit your life to someone else's control, your choice and actions of submission are always in your control. When you contract with an employer you may think you've given up control of your time, but that's not true either. You're contracting a certain number of hours per day each week to perform specific tasks in exchange for pay. You chose what to do with your life and time when you accepted the position. If you're working a job where you feel stuck and that you have no control, there are a few things you need to do.
You have the power to get unstuck. You have control of your life and can make it excellent. Sometimes we stay stuck because we're only using the information we have to date and we can't go any further until we seek counsel. If you're stuck and need a supernatural strategy to move forward schedule a call with me today.   It's always funny to hear little kids say, "You're not the boss of me!" Truth is adults say that, too, although usually in their minds instead of verbally. Well, if we want to succeed - really succeed - in all areas of life, we must learn to follow instructions given by those who're assigned to mentor and teach us. Watch this short video and share a time when you've followed a mentor's instructions and experienced success.
Happy New Year!
Making good decisions is something that has to be learned, practiced and perfected. If you need help in this area, get a mentor now because the decisions you make over the next six months will set the course of your desitny. 
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Zari Banks, M.EdLife-Hack Strategist 
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