 Don't talk about it, be about it is one of those sayings that basically means: produce something. I was thinking over this statement tonight and here I am producing this blog post instead of doing what's on my schedule to do right now. Let me walk you through my rabbit trail of thoughts. First, I heard the comment, "You're always telling what you're gonna do and sometimes you do it and sometimes you don't." Then the title saying popped into my head. Third, reasoning came into play. I am always planning to do things. A lot of things because I'm hyper-creative and productive. Not artsy creative, but building businesses and making improvements type creative. Most of the time I plan to do things I do them. But other times, my partner pops up and tells me to go a different route than my original plan, and because He's my angel investor, aka The One With The Funds, I follow instructions because I want to stay in business. Therefore, if I drop the ball on a project or cancel, there's gotta be a good reason because generally I'm a finisher. I get things done. Also, there's nothing wrong with changing plans. That's the great thing about successful businesses. On the one hand you're structured and have systems in place, and on the other you have fluidity that keeps you market fresh. And I can say after six years in business, I have more completions and successes than drops and cancels. I'm still here. Think about where you want to be six years from now. At the rate you're going, will your business or relationship still be around? If you need some help becoming a finisher, schedule a call or book a package and I'll help you prioritize and organize so you can finish those business and personal projects, too.   Asking effective questions is a learned skill that if mastered will propel your life and career to new levels. I'm a witness of this. I learned that asking the right questions opens up the mind so that you're be able to look for solutions in different ways. I have a video teaching titled Effective Questions available for members of the Supernatural Success Portal. If you want to be successful in any area of life being able to communicate effectively is crucial. Part of being an effective communicator is being a good listener, and as you listen you'll hear that many don't properly _say what they want, what they mean or ask for it. You can gauge your effectiveness by tracking how many statements you make that receive the desired outcome each time. Also, many misuse declarative and interrogative statements. Misuse hinders the ability to have needs met. For example, someone said to me the other day, "I need this problem solved," and continued on about their business. Then they returned to me and inquired as to why I hadn't solved their problem. There was miscommunication and their need wasn't met at the speed they desired. Instead of asking me to solve the problem, they only shared with me (stated) their problem existed. To communicate effectively, be aware of making statements when necessary and ask questions when you need answers. I realize that bosses and employers often make statements similar to the one above and they need, expect and require employees solve their problems swiftly. That makes sense because an employee is under contractual obligation to exchange their time and work for income. This is similarly true in high-stakes relationships such as husbands and wives and parents and children. One will say to the other, "I need ...," or "I want ...," instead of forming a question. The level of comfort in those situations often warrants less formal communication practices. But there are times where we may not receive what we need if we fail to build a foundation through statements and then present the question needing an answer. Are others responding to you the way you want them to? Are you getting what you ask for? I encourage you to pay close attention to your communication and determine if you're reaping the harvests you expect. If you need help improving your communication book a Communication Superstar session today. In 30 minutes we can take a analyze what you're doing and develop a plan for improvement. Book before 10/31/15 for 50% OFF.   You have to take control of what enters, cycles through and rests in your mind.   This article originally appeared on the Linda Dominique Grosvenor-Holland, The Grow Your Dreams Midwife(TM) site. I'm sharing this with you because it's not information that I write on myself but it's valuable, straight forward and provided by an expert from whom I learn much. She's one of my mentors. Also, over the last six months I've advised at least five clients to commit to blogs to get their writings and books exposure and sales. I want you to be successful in every area of life, and if I don't give you the wisdom directly, I'll point you in the right direction. Are thinking about blogging but just don’t know where to start? Here are 5 quick tips for the serious blogger: 1. Get off the freebie blog sites. You may be comfy there and it may be easy because they host everything for you - including your photos and audios - but if you’re trying to build something lasting and make money at it, at the very least you need to OWN IT! That means buy your own domain and start blogging there. Inbox me and I can get you started blogging in a weekend! I got my husband’s blog up and running in less than an hour, and it only took that long because he was deciding on a template. 2. You need to understand and start using social networks. Sure you may love Facebook and hate Twitter or you may hate Twitter and love Instagram, but if you’re trying to spread the word about your blog you’re going to have to learn how to draw people to your blog not just by using what you like to use but by using what your target audience uses as well. That also means you’re going to have to break out of your stifling tight circle of church or work friends, too. Yep, you’ll have to reach out and let complete strangers like, follow and/or friend you ... oh my! 3. Guest Blogging is an option. But it’s an option you don’t want to abuse. You don’t want to harass popular bloggers and gurus with requests to come to your blog and share all that they know. If your blog has nothing to offer them in terms of traffic or even a free ad for 3 months it’s a bit unfair. A better option is to build your reputation and traffic a bit first before you launch out in search of guest bloggers, or even just begin sharing what you know. Become the expert of your own blog before you go looking outside of your blog and once the traffic starts coming guest bloggers won’t mind coming along for the ride too. Read more. What you say to yourself about yourself is and will always be the life you live. It's up to you to speak your way to success!     I've been posting some good stuff on my Facebook page recently. Here's an example: WISDOM: If you're not living up to your full potential you may find yourself going through a midlife crisis halfway through your marriage and think it's the problem. When you don't live your purpose everything else in your life suffers. #zww This is the truth. I'm a people watcher, as many of us are, and I see couples going through the motions with no connection to each other and no plan to fix it because one or both are dry inside from not expressing who they really are. NOTE: I'm speaking of life purpose not negative deviations of any sort. It's going to be difficult for you to flourish in a relationship if you've bought into the 9 to 5, I have to be that go to work and come home spouse who's safe and predictable and does what everyone else does. This message isn't for everyone, of course. I've actually heard people say they just want to be average so I'm not speaking to you folks. I tried that life and it almost killed me. I'm not average. I guess I never have been because I get bored after I master many things and have to learn something new or I get cranky. Constant growth and progress is an inherent characteristic but I believe most people don't go as far as possible because their mindset on what progress constitutes is severely limited. For example, when I was trying to be average I thought a normal progression of growth in public education was the path I took - from classroom teacher, to grade-level rep, to school rep. and mentor of teachers. I received these promotions in four years and many people who'd been teachers for decades often asked me if I was "old enough" to be an Instructional Coach because they hadn't achieved that promotion after years of service. So, looking back at that fast track I guess I wasn't even average when my mindset was limited to a safe life and career. That life backfired on me anyway because when you rise above a crowd of average folks, some of them get ugly and they want to destroy you in the spirit of jealousy. I'm special because I'm an individual and we're all special. On the other hand I'm not special because every one us has the potential to live their dreams, passions and purpose. People look at me, are attracted to me (professionally) and hire me because I'm doing what they desire to do. I'm constantly growing, learning, producing, experimenting with new arenas and have a great amount of freedom in my life. I seem special and different because there are so many who have desires in their hearts but are afraid to do anything risky. It's sad. Life is a risk. Love is a risk. Living your passion is a risk. But the rewards that come are multiplied over and above what an average existence will produce over any amount of time. I'm a witness. If you want to learn how to expand your mindset and enter realms of possibility that lie beyond the average read my book Revelation is for Elevation. Chapter 2 is all about living a lifestyle of breaking through into the new. If you're ready for a mentor to guide you on your path to living your passions book a package or schedule a call today. I can customize a package to fit your budget if you're in between standard pricing. If you will listen and follow instructions I guarantee the supernatural strategies given to transform your life will produce the desired fruit.  |
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