Before getting to work on January 2, 2018 I flew to Seattle for my first NFL game. It was quite a year-end treat and fun way to spend New Year's Eve. It was cold, too.
The friend who hosted me is a charter seat season ticket holder with a second-row view from the 15-yard line. Wow. I was so overwhelmed with the size of the stadium, the number of people and the concessions that I didn't pay much attention to the game. I was literally calculating how much money was circulating in that small section of Seattle, Wash. for that one event.
I reaffirmed the following about myself: I prefer to watch on tv because all the other goings on are way too distracting for my eternally curious brain. Not to mention being surrounded by drunk people, spitting and spilling, is a little beyond my patience.
Anyhoo, 2017 was easily one of my hardest years in a while. More changes in 12 months than I really needed, and things were difficult until December 30th. Going to this game on the 31st was the signal of and start to a new season for me - Seattle lost and their season ended but mine was just beginning. I'll share more about that throughout 2018 as I enjoy what unfolds.
Here's a brief recap of my travels for 2017:
Virginia Beach, VA
Moved to Seattle part time
Los Angeles, CA
I logged some serious miles flown in 2017. I'm expecting more in 2018. I bring up these travels because in April 2016 a colleague said it was time for me to start traveling and I said I didn't like to travel. I believed that until March of 2017. Then I started traveling and now I love it. My wisdom to you is: get out of your comfort zone. Do those things that you don't like to do - at least once and as long as they're healthy behaviors - and grow.
I have some mentoring sessions available in February and March and even more in April. You can book me right from this page or send email inquiries to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Happy New Year!
In my Communication Superstar sessions clients often ask for examples of how I speak to my sweetheart and I have a recent (and decent) example I can share. Below is a simple text I sent to start his day/week off right. This may not seem like a big deal but it is for him for a couple reasons. He travels for work and I was communicating the following to him:
Have you ever run from something that you really wanted? Or maybe even something that was good for you? You may be able to immediately pinpoint an instance or you may not even realize that you've run from something instead of embracing it.
That's the case for most, I believe - they don't realize they've actually, truly, run from a blessing, benefit or opportunity at some time. There's comfort, unfortunately, in the status quo and in living life with many things just out of reach. It takes courage to capture potential, focus on it and refuse to move to the right or left of the path to the promise no matter what comes and no matter how long it takes.
Sometimes we run from wonderful things because of fear. Many give fear too much leg room in their lives. Ultimate achievers and receivers aren't without fear, but they are fearless meaning they face it and conquer it. Other times we run from things because they seem too good to be true. I've had that type of experience. I've learned to overcome fear, but I have wanted to run after planning and preparing for a new level and then almost chickening out when I got there..
I'm excited to say today that I haven't given up hope on any of the hundreds of things on my list of uncommon dreams. For me it's always come down to these factors:
I've overcome the odds of homelessness, rejection, cycles of failure and more to become an award-winning and multiple-bestselling author, speaker and professional mentor. My clients can do everything I've done and greater because it's possible and because of the supernatural strategies and wisdom I share with them. If you're ready to start winning schedule a call or book a package right now.
Mentors are excellent accountability partners as you travel the road to success.
In this video I share three powerful tips for stress-free living. Watch and share your thoughts below.
Hey there, wisdom seekers!
I want to encourage you to celebrate YOU. Often. Whenever you need to. I made the executive decision today that - since I always work at home - I'd work from bed. That's a little treat I give myself every now and then. I don't know why I get such a kick out of it, but I do.
Working from bed today is one of the gifts I'm giving myself for my birthday (July 26). Last night for dinner I treated myself to Zip's which is my favorite local hamburger spot, and was my first non-family job at 15 years old. The food is so greasy and so good, made when you order not microwaved and thrown together. I'm also treating myself to a professional house cleaning. Mind you, I did start cleaning like a maniac yesterday so when the service company arrives they won't realize I put off deep cleaning until the very last minute possible. I know that's ridiculous, but that's how it is.
I've learned that being a single I have to celebrate myself. I have to do special things for myself so that I don't plant seeds of lack, loneliness, discouragement, etc. in my soul. It's very easy to overlook my birthday as a single adult and even more so as a single mom.
You have to learn to do the same for yourself. Even if you are in a covenant relationship, the other person cannot be expected to fulfill your every need and desire. You have to celebrate you. I'm not suggesting in any way that you become selfish and prideful, claro que si. Simply put you know what you want better than most others, and if it's something you can provide for yourself without putting you in debt, danger or despair go for it.
Additionally, it's been my experience that being able to celebrate yourself makes it easy to celebrate others because you're confident and secure in who you are. And that ... is attractive.
Happy & Abundantly Blessed Birthday to my fellow Julyers!!
It's always funny to hear little kids say, "You're not the boss of me!" Truth is adults say that, too, although usually in their minds instead of verbally. Well, if we want to succeed - really succeed - in all areas of life, we must learn to follow instructions given by those who're assigned to mentor and teach us.
Watch this short video and share a time when you've followed a mentor's instructions and experienced success.
I went to a local coffee shop this afternoon (17/5/2015) before I sat down to write some books and had an interesting encounter. The cashier incorrectly input the amount I gave her and became confused, and then proceeded to ask me what my change should be. I told her the correct and honest amount and as she was counting it out to return to me, she said, "I'm not very good at math (chuckle)."
My eyes grew wide and my thoughts were going a mile a minute:
Seriously ... my mind was going a mile a minute. I work toward and teach principles of excellence. Everything I produce isn't perfect I know, but I continue to work on things as necessary because continued growth is the only guaranteed path *to* excellence.
This is the problem I have with minimum wage, unions and organizations such as school districts that pay everyone the same based on some system. Everyone doesn't have the same competence as everyone else so why do they all get paid the same? It's not logical at all. I'm able to garner the fees that I garner because of my difference and competence in my area(s) of expertise to date. A year from now, I'll be worth more per hour than I am now because I'm constantly learning more, breaking through in new areas that were previously blocked and adding more skills to my toolbox that set me farther apart from the average mass.
The same day I had the above enounter I read this headline from Tucson's newspaper, The Arizona Daily Star:
Pima Community College: Most local high school grads need remedial help
and the subtitle:
Nearly 90 percent of local grads entering PCC are deficient in reading, writing or math.
That's a shame. And they want $15 an hour as a minimum wage. How do you deserve $15 an hour if you can't read, write or count? Minimum wage was set up on the theory of possessing basic competence with no college education or specialized training required. If you're deficient in RWM, you're below minimum competence and therefore, by minimum wage's own principle you shouldn't really expect to be gainfully employed.
It's interesting that as a certified teacher, you can't make enough to support more than one person without a graduate degree. On top of that these days you can't even get a job in many places without additional education to receive some type of English as a Second Language or Structured English Immersion certification. These are things that increase competence - and should increase ability - but don't afford you an increase in pay unless you're in a district where having that certification puts you in the minority. And that's getting an increase for your difference.
I haven't always believed this way. Up until a few years ago I was in the matrix and was happy-go-lucky understanding that I'd never make more than $60K a year after 20-something years as a teacher. My mind wasn't renewed until I got fed up with someone else determining what I could I have, do and what my income cap would be. Being homeless will do that for you. I got to the point where my eyes opened to see that money was being made and transferring hands daily and all I had to do was enter the marketplace with a product(s) that met a need. Once you enter the marketplace there's no more limit to your income potential.
Minimum wage and income caps aren't my destiny, and I truly doubt that's yours. If you're in the matrix and want to get out make up your mind to exit and schedule a call or book a package today. In 15 minutes or so I can pinpoint the areas that are holding you back from where you want to be and give you strategies to leap over those walls and succeed.
My first and main Mentor inspired the instructions to be doers and not only hearers. If you want a quick piece of advice for success that’s it right there – be a doer and not only a hearer.
I have the most success with mentees who are doers. And when they follow my instructions and do the work, they’ll achieve every breakthrough they’re seeking. It’s a guarantee. That makes for a great mentee: one who listens, receives the revelation and then acts on it. That’s the basics of being a winner. Hear and then do.
Last week I mentioned that being a proficient listener wasn’t natural to me. It’s not natural to anyone. Look at toddlers. We are taught to listen by experiencing the positive rewards it brings. Great mentees hear, receive and do. Poor mentees choose otherwise and remain stuck.
You're a poor mentee if you one who replies to advice given with comments such as, "I know, but ..." and "You don't understand what they did to me." You know what? I know they hurt you. I know what they did was wrong. The problem is you're the one dwelling on it instead of healing and thriving, and they're not. And you very well may "know" with your head what I speak to you, but you haven't implemented the revelation in your heart or life or you would be living abundantly and not in need of the deep work that I do.
I’m a doer. A successful doer, not a spinning my wheels going around in circles because I refuse to change doer. Even when I don’t have someone else walking through a situation directly with me, I still do because I want the next level. Whatever that next level is. For example, I’m sacrificing sleep by working from 3 a.m. to 6 a.m. to get to the next levels in a few areas of my life. No one else is walking through this with me, no one else suggested I do it, but I’m doing it because I know I’ll get where I want to be in a specified amount of time.
How do I KNOW I’ll get to the next levels? I know because I’ve made a similar sacrifice before and achieved the results I needed and also because actions have natural reactions and my actions are producing the reactions I desire. I’m not just doing to do. I’m focused and am performing a specific pattern of tasks that lead to specific results. I’m only about 33% of the way through my program and I’ve already experienced more breakthroughs than I can count.
Become a doer. Stop just hearing and not doing and you will succeed. I'm a witness. When you're ready, schedule a call or book a mentoring package. If you need a custom package that we create together, that's perfectly fine. I do it all the time for clients whose budgets are in between one of the standard packages. The goal is to get you to a place where you're experiencing the life of your dreams because it is possible. Time flies, don't wait.