Before getting to work on January 2, 2018 I flew to Seattle for my first NFL game. It was quite a year-end treat and fun way to spend New Year's Eve. It was cold, too.
The friend who hosted me is a charter seat season ticket holder with a second-row view from the 15-yard line. Wow. I was so overwhelmed with the size of the stadium, the number of people and the concessions that I didn't pay much attention to the game. I was literally calculating how much money was circulating in that small section of Seattle, Wash. for that one event.
I reaffirmed the following about myself: I prefer to watch on tv because all the other goings on are way too distracting for my eternally curious brain. Not to mention being surrounded by drunk people, spitting and spilling, is a little beyond my patience.
Anyhoo, 2017 was easily one of my hardest years in a while. More changes in 12 months than I really needed, and things were difficult until December 30th. Going to this game on the 31st was the signal of and start to a new season for me - Seattle lost and their season ended but mine was just beginning. I'll share more about that throughout 2018 as I enjoy what unfolds.
Here's a brief recap of my travels for 2017:
Virginia Beach, VA
Moved to Seattle part time
Los Angeles, CA
I logged some serious miles flown in 2017. I'm expecting more in 2018. I bring up these travels because in April 2016 a colleague said it was time for me to start traveling and I said I didn't like to travel. I believed that until March of 2017. Then I started traveling and now I love it. My wisdom to you is: get out of your comfort zone. Do those things that you don't like to do - at least once and as long as they're healthy behaviors - and grow.
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Happy New Year!
I've decided to step up my running game and break through into the new. It's exciting and the personal accomplishments are fuel for more and greater. Watch.
I started running last night. For 15 minutes. I have to start somewhere since I hibernate during the cold months. I always begin my re-acclimation with walking first and then I get so bored with the slow pace that I have to run. So I walked three days and on the fourth I was ready for my first run of the year. Congrats, Me!
I'm using the MapMyRunTrainer app that has a couch-to-5K training plan. It starts with one day running every four days with 15 minutes of 3/2 run walks. I didn't follow that, of course. I wouldn't be Zari if I didn't adapt everything to fit me. I ran the whole 15 minutes and didn't rest the next day as the program suggested. I ran again today. And it felt so good. After the first 10 anyway. But I know myself, what I can handle and how to listen to my body. I know I can run (jog) 15 minutes without stopping even though I haven't run in four months.
I'm taking this as extreme encouragement for a wonderful running season ahead. I started earlier this year than ever since moving from a hot desert to a cold desert. Which either means I've adapted to 55 degrees being tolerable weather or spring is coming three months earlier this year. I'm hoping for the latter. Call me cutie, but I love 100 degrees.
Back to adapting things to fit me. That's what life is all about, right? We have to collect information, resources and strategies and then adapt them so they fit our lifestyles for maximum effectiveness. There are times when following instructions to a T matter. I've learned this ... the hard way. But as individuals, we have the right and necessity to mold things to what we need to be successful. This excludes being mean and nasty and breaking the law, claro que si.
For example, look below at the feedback I received from a client. I gave her an assessment and plan with strategies and it was up to her to implement in a way that worked for her need and family. I provided the outline for her just as the running app did for me, but she did the work to get the results she wanted and so do I. I want to get up to my normal run of 60 minutes 3-4 times a week, and while their plan is good it's slower than what I want as a 19-year runner.
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In my Communication Superstar sessions clients often ask for examples of how I speak to my sweetheart and I have a recent (and decent) example I can share. Below is a simple text I sent to start his day/week off right. This may not seem like a big deal but it is for him for a couple reasons. He travels for work and I was communicating the following to him:
This is the second installment in the Breaking Negative Cycles series posted in the Supernatural Success Mentee portal.
Last week I wrote about putting systems in place for small business so this week I'm tackling systems for home and relationships.
We all fall into one of the following categories:
I have systems for business and home. To give you an idea, one of the many things I do at home is wash dishes once a day as one of the last things I do before going to bed. I'm not willing to wash dishes more than once a day - holidays and special occasions are different, of course - because I have other things to do with my time. But what I need for the day is ready when I get up each morning, in addition to waking to a clean and empty sink to fill throughout. Included in this process is that if someone wants a dish that's in the sink after breakfast or lunch, it's their individual responsibility to clean it for use.
This system works in my household and everyone's privy to it. It may not work in yours, but it's now a framework you've been exposed to that will help you adopt a system for your life if you need one.
When I worked outside of the home and didn't homeschool, when we came in the door each afternoon, you put your shoes in the cubby under the washer, washed hands, backpacks were emptied and papers were sorted into two baskets - what I needed to review and homework. Snack was served and homework was completed at the kitchen table as I made dinner.
You also need systems for relationships. Whether work or personal you need to know each party's expectations, needs and desires and determine which are appropriate for you to fulfill and which you're willing to meet. For example, it's not proper for you to return to work each week after your days off and share your personal experiences with your manager. However, it's very appropriate to share your daily happenings with your spouse and family.
Just as business owners train employees, we have to train our loved ones how to treat us. Right now I'm learning my sweetheart and he's learning me. We're teaching each other how we need and want to be treated by the other and aligning our behaviors. We're communicating our expectations so that systems can be developed as we move forward. These systems won't always be the same because people change, but it's easier to adapt something that already exists than it is in these beginning stages where we're creating one process from two different entities. I'm teaching on this in greater detail in a live web event Tuesday, October 13, 2015.
I encourage you to look over your business/work, home and relationship systems this week and note any areas needing improvement. If you've already received enough information to implement change, get it done. if you need an outside pair of eyes to target a success strategy schedule a call or book a package today. I'd love to help make your life easier.
Mentors are excellent accountability partners as you travel the road to success.
I'm a single mother and former elementary school teacher so when I began my professional mentoring business I focused on mentoring single parents and young children. Watch this video and see if you're serving the right tribe for your current season of life.
You know those people that get on your nerves? The ones that rub you the wrong way? We all have them. It's kind of a part of life. But it's also a learning opportunity.
There's no way in the world that we'll get along with everyone. I don't expect or believe that's possible. What I do know is possible is that we can grow and improve inwardly and outwardly in situations where friction exists during interactions with others.
I recently witnessed and was able to provide counsel for an interpersonal interaction where frustration was mounting and about to explode. There are several variables that determine how to behave when someone's getting on our nerves but I'll only cover a few for us here.
First, we want to check our attitudes. This includes our thoughts, feelings and motives for receiving another's actions as irritations. In the situation I witnessed, the person who resembled the photo above was frustrated because of unmet expectations.
Second, we need to check for understanding. We need to know if the other party has the necessary knowledge, tools and skills to meet the communicated objectives.
Third, we must check our words. It's easy when someone's getting our nerves to be sarcastic, snotty, bratty and the like. Negative words and a condescending tone never correct a deteriorating interpersonal interaction. Use every opportunity possible to speak life into every situation. And if you mess up, when you realize it, apologize sincerely.
If you employ these three strategies the next time someone's pushing your buttons, you'll reap the benefits of being a peacemaker. And if you're skilled at bringing peace into heated situations, that makes you a problem solver!
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My favorite form of exercise is running. Running is great for quick weight loss and maintenance and it just feels good. At the beginning of July I set a goal to be at 10-minute miles by month's end. I'm a warm-weather runner only (and when I say warm I mean hot) so I didn't begin until some time in June, and yes, 10-minute miles in four weeks is a lofty goal for someone who only exercises four months a year. It wasn't always this way. When I lived in Arizona I ran 10 months a year because the weather permitted it.
I didn't make it. I seemed to have plateaued at about 11.5 minutes per mile. Well, that's not ok with me so I began doing a little reading on running and marathon training. I found several strategies that potentially could offer me improvement, implemented a few and I'm pleased to announce that on my run Sunday, August 16, 2015 I broke 10 minutes per mile!
Look at the picture on the right. I broke 10 minutes and shaved almost 60 seconds off each mile in 2 days. If you know anything about running you know that's pretty significant.
In order to get off the plateau and begin improving as a runner I did three things:
I always get life lessons and flashbacks of teaching strategies out of re-conditioning my body to run each summer and this situation is no exception. Here are the things that stood out to me that apply to any area we want to break through in:
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