My fave Christmas gift every year is always my next year's Planner and a pack of Pilot G2 Gel Pens. I've decreased in size from 8.5 X 11 to 6 X 8. It takes up less space in my backpack and fits better on the size of desk I've worked at since 2017.
We get more accomplished when we write things down. It's proven and you can test it in your own life, if you don't believe me. Having a to-do list causes us to focus and increases productivity because we have a blueprint and can track each success as tasks are checked off.
I'm often excited for what a new year brings, but this year is going to be my best yet. I entered 2020 with more joy than I've ever had in my life. I usually have to fight to shake off the after-Christmas letdown, but I didn't this year. I powered through and am still going strong. And still increasing every day.
I stopped running in 2017 and stopped mentoring and writing books in 2018. Big mistake. I was trying fit my square self into the round hole of the average American rat race and in the process I began to forget who I am. That means I was getting fat and not making a difference in anyone's life which made me all the way miserable.
It took a close friend committing suicide on September 1, 2019 to make me uncomfortable enough to reevaluate what I was doing with my days. I've never had someone so close to me die that way, but it snapped me to attention like nothing else was able before then.
I found out about the death September 4 and by October 4, I had adopted the resolve that I'll be who I am because the cost not to is too great. I help people change their lives. I help people get out of debt. I help people improve relationships and overcome difficult circumstances.
I returned to self employment October 6 and I'm alive again. And in this short amount of time I've already assisted at least 10 people with immediate improvement of quality of life. And as a bonus, I get to set my own wages and hours.
It's good to be alive!
Are Americans still concerned with being pc? It's a valid question to ask in 2017.
Riots aren't pc. Peaceful protests are ... riots are not. Ever. It's not politically correct to destroy someone else's property. Nor is it pc to murder or to admit you have murderous tendencies - in most cases, that is.
From my observations, I've discerned we're only politically correct until the moment we feel we can't get what we want. Then ... all bets are off. I've never been a fan of pc nonsense and I seriously doubt I'd ever be accused of trying to be politically correct.
I subscribe to a policy of honor, integrity and speaking the truth in love. My messages aren't always popular because the truth sometimes hurts. But on the flip side, it also sets us free. Therein lies the reality of political correctness - when the truth hurts so badly that we don't want to receive it, be pc instead or risk public shunning.
We are a society of ever-decreasing morals which is the truth. But because that truth is uncomfortable, anyone who states that openly is called intolerant and worse. Political correctness is a lie. It's a facade. It's manipulation. Sugarcoating and denying the truth for popularity or bribery to gain something always leaves one party in a deficit.
I say if what we're doing and speaking isn't improving and adding to the lives that'll be affected, we have a responsibility to choose differently. I desire for the people I mentor and impact to be free to live their authentic selves and truly be who they are in every situation. I want them to be confident enough to speak their hearts without fear of rejection or retaliation. I'm working on that one client at a time.
I say political correctness is trash and I'm throwing it out with a bunch of other junk this year. Care to join me?
I started running last night. For 15 minutes. I have to start somewhere since I hibernate during the cold months. I always begin my re-acclimation with walking first and then I get so bored with the slow pace that I have to run. So I walked three days and on the fourth I was ready for my first run of the year. Congrats, Me!
I'm using the MapMyRunTrainer app that has a couch-to-5K training plan. It starts with one day running every four days with 15 minutes of 3/2 run walks. I didn't follow that, of course. I wouldn't be Zari if I didn't adapt everything to fit me. I ran the whole 15 minutes and didn't rest the next day as the program suggested. I ran again today. And it felt so good. After the first 10 anyway. But I know myself, what I can handle and how to listen to my body. I know I can run (jog) 15 minutes without stopping even though I haven't run in four months.
I'm taking this as extreme encouragement for a wonderful running season ahead. I started earlier this year than ever since moving from a hot desert to a cold desert. Which either means I've adapted to 55 degrees being tolerable weather or spring is coming three months earlier this year. I'm hoping for the latter. Call me cutie, but I love 100 degrees.
Back to adapting things to fit me. That's what life is all about, right? We have to collect information, resources and strategies and then adapt them so they fit our lifestyles for maximum effectiveness. There are times when following instructions to a T matter. I've learned this ... the hard way. But as individuals, we have the right and necessity to mold things to what we need to be successful. This excludes being mean and nasty and breaking the law, claro que si.
For example, look below at the feedback I received from a client. I gave her an assessment and plan with strategies and it was up to her to implement in a way that worked for her need and family. I provided the outline for her just as the running app did for me, but she did the work to get the results she wanted and so do I. I want to get up to my normal run of 60 minutes 3-4 times a week, and while their plan is good it's slower than what I want as a 19-year runner.
If you need a plan for communication breakthrough, or anything else, schedule a call or book a package. I'll provide an outline and then you will get the results you want.
Have you seen this? It was all over Twitter yesterday, so you probably have. Of course, I don't have all the facts or know what's behind their tension, but I would've fired them both if I were their supervisor because it was inappropriate. They're news professionals not reality tv actors, and represent a media corporation that's supposed to have a reputation of providing reliable information. Bad news and behavior often travel faster than good, and I wouldn't want my company associated with that incident.
I've been in this position with finger pointing, bickering and neck flying. In the moment you really feel you're in the right. But when you get to see a recording of it after the fact, you realize you look like a child throwing a temper tantrum. It's not pretty. Man or woman.
As we mature our emotional intelligence should increase to a point where we're able to remain calm in all situations. I often think back to a lesson my dad taught when I was young about being thermostat or a thermometer. A thermostat is controlled by an individual. This is self-control and discipline, where you decide what raises your temperature and gets you heated. A thermometer simply responds to the temperature around and has no control over it's reaction; it just goes up or down.
Self-control and emotional intelligence have to be learned and cultivated. They're not intrinsic to human behavior. We're born wanting our way and only through training do we learn that life is full of compromise - also known as patience. I've had to focus on improving my self-control, patience and emotional intelligence over the years. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm thankful I'm not where I used to be.
If you're struggling with self-control, patience or emotional intelligence be encouraged because you can improve. I can help you assess the situation, compose a plan to increase in the areas of deficiency and track your progress as you implement proven strategies. Schedule a call or book a package today.