Are Americans still concerned with being pc? It's a valid question to ask in 2017.
Riots aren't pc. Peaceful protests are ... riots are not. Ever. It's not politically correct to destroy someone else's property. Nor is it pc to murder or to admit you have murderous tendencies - in most cases, that is.
From my observations, I've discerned we're only politically correct until the moment we feel we can't get what we want. Then ... all bets are off. I've never been a fan of pc nonsense and I seriously doubt I'd ever be accused of trying to be politically correct.
I subscribe to a policy of honor, integrity and speaking the truth in love. My messages aren't always popular because the truth sometimes hurts. But on the flip side, it also sets us free. Therein lies the reality of political correctness - when the truth hurts so badly that we don't want to receive it, be pc instead or risk public shunning.
We are a society of ever-decreasing morals which is the truth. But because that truth is uncomfortable, anyone who states that openly is called intolerant and worse. Political correctness is a lie. It's a facade. It's manipulation. Sugarcoating and denying the truth for popularity or bribery to gain something always leaves one party in a deficit.
I say if what we're doing and speaking isn't improving and adding to the lives that'll be affected, we have a responsibility to choose differently. I desire for the people I mentor and impact to be free to live their authentic selves and truly be who they are in every situation. I want them to be confident enough to speak their hearts without fear of rejection or retaliation. I'm working on that one client at a time.
I say political correctness is trash and I'm throwing it out with a bunch of other junk this year. Care to join me?
QUESTION: I've been slacking on my running goals and think an accountability partner may be the kick in the butt I need. Do you have an accountability partner?
ANSWER: Yes, I have accountability partners for the areas of my life that I require them. So I recommend one/them. Specifically for running, I don't have one because my appetite and the consequences keep me in sneaks and on the pavement every year without fail.
I've shared this before in other posts and other places — there are some things you won't ever accomplish without a mentor, coach or accountability partner. It's just a fact of life. We're not meant nor are we able to do everything alone.
I had to learn that the hard way. My own son, who's 25 years younger than I am, once told me, "You're so stubborn ... why don't you just let someone help you?" I used to pride myself on doing a lot and doing it by myself as a single woman/mother. I still do a lot, but I don't have any trouble asking for or receiving help these days. And because I do so much, help is a blessing.
Mentors, coaches and accountability partners are a form of help. They're finishers. They're champions ... overcomers and experts. We all need them.
My areas of expertise as a mentor are:
1. Communication — I help my clients clean up their speech. You know, most of us have a public persona and private one, and unfortunately the private one often gets neglected trying to keep up the public. So when we get home where we're comfortable, we don't guard our speech with words of love, care and concern as we should, and as a result end up creating dysfunction in the most-important realm of life.
2. Breakthrough and Deliverance — I help my clients get over, through and around barriers, whether invisible or physical, that keep them stuck or away from the success they desire. We all have dreams that seem massively unattainable, but that's never the case. With a little assessment and planning we can get from here to there. I'm a witness.
3. Financial Turnaround — I help my clients climb out of the pits of debt, poverty and cycles of lack. I've experienced all of those things (and homelessness) and through mentors overcame to become one who now mentors others on doing the same. Once you've lost it all and had to rebuild on a new foundation, you do whatever has to be done to build right the second time around.
If you're ready to improve your communication, experience breakthrough and deliverance or financial turnaround, book me today.
I started running last night. For 15 minutes. I have to start somewhere since I hibernate during the cold months. I always begin my re-acclimation with walking first and then I get so bored with the slow pace that I have to run. So I walked three days and on the fourth I was ready for my first run of the year. Congrats, Me!
I'm using the MapMyRunTrainer app that has a couch-to-5K training plan. It starts with one day running every four days with 15 minutes of 3/2 run walks. I didn't follow that, of course. I wouldn't be Zari if I didn't adapt everything to fit me. I ran the whole 15 minutes and didn't rest the next day as the program suggested. I ran again today. And it felt so good. After the first 10 anyway. But I know myself, what I can handle and how to listen to my body. I know I can run (jog) 15 minutes without stopping even though I haven't run in four months.
I'm taking this as extreme encouragement for a wonderful running season ahead. I started earlier this year than ever since moving from a hot desert to a cold desert. Which either means I've adapted to 55 degrees being tolerable weather or spring is coming three months earlier this year. I'm hoping for the latter. Call me cutie, but I love 100 degrees.
Back to adapting things to fit me. That's what life is all about, right? We have to collect information, resources and strategies and then adapt them so they fit our lifestyles for maximum effectiveness. There are times when following instructions to a T matter. I've learned this ... the hard way. But as individuals, we have the right and necessity to mold things to what we need to be successful. This excludes being mean and nasty and breaking the law, claro que si.
For example, look below at the feedback I received from a client. I gave her an assessment and plan with strategies and it was up to her to implement in a way that worked for her need and family. I provided the outline for her just as the running app did for me, but she did the work to get the results she wanted and so do I. I want to get up to my normal run of 60 minutes 3-4 times a week, and while their plan is good it's slower than what I want as a 19-year runner.
If you need a plan for communication breakthrough, or anything else, schedule a call or book a package. I'll provide an outline and then you will get the results you want.
This is the second installment in the Breaking Negative Cycles series posted in the Supernatural Success Mentee portal.
Have you seen this? It was all over Twitter yesterday, so you probably have. Of course, I don't have all the facts or know what's behind their tension, but I would've fired them both if I were their supervisor because it was inappropriate. They're news professionals not reality tv actors, and represent a media corporation that's supposed to have a reputation of providing reliable information. Bad news and behavior often travel faster than good, and I wouldn't want my company associated with that incident.
I've been in this position with finger pointing, bickering and neck flying. In the moment you really feel you're in the right. But when you get to see a recording of it after the fact, you realize you look like a child throwing a temper tantrum. It's not pretty. Man or woman.
As we mature our emotional intelligence should increase to a point where we're able to remain calm in all situations. I often think back to a lesson my dad taught when I was young about being thermostat or a thermometer. A thermostat is controlled by an individual. This is self-control and discipline, where you decide what raises your temperature and gets you heated. A thermometer simply responds to the temperature around and has no control over it's reaction; it just goes up or down.
Self-control and emotional intelligence have to be learned and cultivated. They're not intrinsic to human behavior. We're born wanting our way and only through training do we learn that life is full of compromise - also known as patience. I've had to focus on improving my self-control, patience and emotional intelligence over the years. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm thankful I'm not where I used to be.
If you're struggling with self-control, patience or emotional intelligence be encouraged because you can improve. I can help you assess the situation, compose a plan to increase in the areas of deficiency and track your progress as you implement proven strategies. Schedule a call or book a package today.
You have to take control of what enters, cycles through and rests in your mind.
No one likes the pit. I know I didn't. However ... the pit is a great thing. Really it is.
You finally come to the place where you realize you need help, must ask for it and receive it. It's desperation. You're fully drowning and need a lifeline or you can't continue. That is a wonderful place to be.
YOU took yourself to a place of failure. Linking up with the wrong crowd - naturally and spiritually - contributed to your downfall, but it was your decisions that put the spade into the ground and pulled the dirt up and out of the hole every time. I know from firsthand experience so no ... I am not being harsh. I'm telling you the truth and the truth sets you free. I'm a witness.
The pit is the perfect place for those in a cycle of failure because you have to look up to see the light of day. It's the revelation that you're so low that the next stop for you is looking like death - and you may not come back from that. It's being at the end of yourself and that's your first marker on the path to deliverance.
Cycles of failure are hard to get out of until you admit you need help. They're like being in a whirlwind going around and around, with everything up in the air and you having no idea when it'll all come crashing down.
How do you know when you're in a cycle of failure? Look back over your life in chunks of three, six, nine and 12 months to identify areas of decrease. If one area shows up in two or more periods, it's an indicator that your current process is ineffective. Another way is to look at your goals. If you're consistently not meeting your daily, weekly and monthly goals something needs to change. Successful individuals and organizations regularly monitor their productivity. If you incorporate this process into your life or business, you'll begin to experience an upswing.
If you're at the end of yourself and are in the pit or have identified cycles of failure that you need to overcome, schedule a call or book a session today. I have strategies that will put you on track to living your destiny.
I'm a dreamer.
When I lie down to sleep - even when napping - I begin dreaming or having visions as soon as my mind quiets. EXAMPLE: This past Sunday I was sitting in my napping chair (it's a fabulous La-Z-Boy leather recliner that's perfect for naps) at 5:44 p.m. I noted the time because I had a call scheduled for 6. And somehow in that brief amount of time I fell asleep and went into a really exciting dream. I lost the record of the dream, though, because my phone went off and jolted me awake. I do remember someone - most likely myself - yelling, "Grab that, too!"
Dreams are important tools for guiding our lives and giving us direction IF - and that's a big IF - we will invest the time to record our dreams upon waking and seek proper interpretation through prayer and then if necessary from someone gifted in seeing (interpretation). The Giver of Dreams desires the best for our lives. He knows the plans He has for us and decreed that those plans are for our good, for our prosperity, for our futures and for hope.
Seeking understanding about a dream from any other source other than the Giver Himself cannot yield the truth contained in the dream. Humanistic means based on the mind - which is flawed though amazing in its natural state - cannot adequately interpret dreams because dreams are spiritual communications. That further lends to the fact that if an interpreter isn't of the right spirit - say, a spirit of darkness as opposed to a true spirit of light - they cannot provide an accurate interpretation.
Take some time to examine your night dreams. They're communicating the condition of your soul and spirit. Are you consistently dreaming of dark, negative events and rehearsing the past or are you dreaming of things that speak of your future and give you hope? As a mentor my expertise is in helping you get your soul cleaned up and healed so that you can be your authentic self. A self that isn't running or hiding from what has been, but instead is leaping toward a future that's overflowing with hope.
If you're ready to take that leap, schedule a call or book a package today. I know you want to live the best life possible and leave a healthy legacy for those who come after you. Let's get started now.
P.S. I was not ever a homecoming queen, but I was the belle of my 20-year high school reunion this summer and that only happened because I have a cleaned up and healed soul. Let me tell you ... I used to be a problem causer and I was great at it. Now I'm a problem solver and I'm great at that. ;) Let me help you.
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