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Before getting to work on January 2, 2018 I flew to Seattle for my first NFL game. It was quite a year-end treat and fun way to spend New Year's Eve. It was cold, too. The friend who hosted me is a charter seat season ticket holder with a second-row view from the 15-yard line. Wow. I was so overwhelmed with the size of the stadium, the number of people and the concessions that I didn't pay much attention to the game. I was literally calculating how much money was circulating in that small section of Seattle, Wash. for that one event. I reaffirmed the following about myself: I prefer to watch on tv because all the other goings on are way too distracting for my eternally curious brain. Not to mention being surrounded by drunk people, spitting and spilling, is a little beyond my patience. Anyhoo, 2017 was easily one of my hardest years in a while. More changes in 12 months than I really needed, and things were difficult until December 30th. Going to this game on the 31st was the signal of and start to a new season for me - Seattle lost and their season ended but mine was just beginning. I'll share more about that throughout 2018 as I enjoy what unfolds. Here's a brief recap of my travels for 2017: Seattle, WA Virginia Beach, VA Dallas, TX Seattle, WA Moved to Seattle part time Chicago, IL Atlanta, GA Dallas, TX Chicago, IL Portland, OR Los Angeles, CA Raleigh, NC Norfolk, VA Tucson, AZ I logged some serious miles flown in 2017. I'm expecting more in 2018. I bring up these travels because in April 2016 a colleague said it was time for me to start traveling and I said I didn't like to travel. I believed that until March of 2017. Then I started traveling and now I love it. My wisdom to you is: get out of your comfort zone. Do those things that you don't like to do - at least once and as long as they're healthy behaviors - and grow. I have some mentoring sessions available in February and March and even more in April. You can book me right from this page or send email inquiries to zsolvesproblems@gmail.com. Happy New Year!  Have you seen this? It was all over Twitter yesterday, so you probably have. Of course, I don't have all the facts or know what's behind their tension, but I would've fired them both if I were their supervisor because it was inappropriate. They're news professionals not reality tv actors, and represent a media corporation that's supposed to have a reputation of providing reliable information. Bad news and behavior often travel faster than good, and I wouldn't want my company associated with that incident. I've been in this position with finger pointing, bickering and neck flying. In the moment you really feel you're in the right. But when you get to see a recording of it after the fact, you realize you look like a child throwing a temper tantrum. It's not pretty. Man or woman. As we mature our emotional intelligence should increase to a point where we're able to remain calm in all situations. I often think back to a lesson my dad taught when I was young about being thermostat or a thermometer. A thermostat is controlled by an individual. This is self-control and discipline, where you decide what raises your temperature and gets you heated. A thermometer simply responds to the temperature around and has no control over it's reaction; it just goes up or down. Self-control and emotional intelligence have to be learned and cultivated. They're not intrinsic to human behavior. We're born wanting our way and only through training do we learn that life is full of compromise - also known as patience. I've had to focus on improving my self-control, patience and emotional intelligence over the years. I'm still a work in progress, but I'm thankful I'm not where I used to be. If you're struggling with self-control, patience or emotional intelligence be encouraged because you can improve. I can help you assess the situation, compose a plan to increase in the areas of deficiency and track your progress as you implement proven strategies. Schedule a call or book a package today.    Are you a quitter? You may not want to admit it, but it's actually better if you do. Recognizing problems is the first step to solving them. Let's look at it from another angle. Are you where you want to be in life? If not, do you have a written plan you're working to get there? Even if it's seemingly too big for someone like you go after it wholeheartedly. Over the past week or so I've been focusing on attracting impossible realities (aka miracles) into my life. I've done this before, so it's not something new to me. What's new are the miracles I'm expecting this time around. Napoleon Hill said faith is the basis of all miracles and mysteries that can't be analyzed by the rules of science. I have big faith for miracles because I've experienced them before. In December 2012 I boarded a 6 p.m. flight to Phoenix, Ariz. with only $50 in my pocket which was given to me by my ride to the airport. She asked, "Do you have any cash?" I told her the truth which was no, and she handed me a $50-dollar bill. How often do friends dropping you off at the airport hand you cash money? It was wild but a real blessing. I booked a hotel online at 10 p.m. the night before after being handed $100 from a friend. I simply said, I'm going to Arizona tomorrow on a miracle mission and she asked, "Do you have everything you need?" I told her the truth which was no, and she handed me $100 cash. How awesome is that?! I actually looked for the hotel and had to leave the house after 9 p.m. to deposit the cash so I could book the room. So glad B of A gives immediate credit for cash. They have their issues, but sometimes they really come through. When I arrived in Phoenix I texted my friend Sharon to check in. I didn't know how I'd get to the hotel and she suggested I take a taxi. It was $45. Remember the $50 I'd been given just 3 hours earlier? Imagine what would've happened without it. I share this prove to you that the impossible can happen for you if you're willing to step out in faith. I move out in faith all of the time. I scare some people with the faith moves I make. Seriously. My mentor Patti has said to me more than once, by the time she believes for one impossible thing I've done for her life I'm already farther out in the water about to step out of the boat again. If you've been a quitter in the past, I'd love to work with you and impart my walk-on-water faith into you. I'm not any different than you. I was born and raised in a small town that was only 50,000 people by the time I graduated high school. If a small-town girl like me can believe and experience the impossible, so can you. Let's get started.   DISCLAIMER: If you're not ready for some blunt truth DON'T READ THIS. As a mentor I often help clients get unstuck and move out of wilderness seasons into harvest. But I have to admit there are a few who choose not to heed my wisdom and therefore, choose to remain stuck. That's right, dear ones, it's always our choice to take action or not. I recently spoke with someone who stated they had no control of their time. There's no truth to that testament. Even if you submit your life to someone else's control, your choice and actions of submission are always in your control. When you contract with an employer you may think you've given up control of your time, but that's not true either. You're contracting a certain number of hours per day each week to perform specific tasks in exchange for pay. You chose what to do with your life and time when you accepted the position. If you're working a job where you feel stuck and that you have no control, there are a few things you need to do.
You have the power to get unstuck. You have control of your life and can make it excellent. Sometimes we stay stuck because we're only using the information we have to date and we can't go any further until we seek counsel. If you're stuck and need a supernatural strategy to move forward schedule a call with me today.   In this video I share three powerful tips for stress-free living. Watch and share your thoughts below. What you say to yourself about yourself is and will always be the life you live. It's up to you to speak your way to success!     ZariMy first and main Mentor inspired the instructions to be doers and not only hearers. If you want a quick piece of advice for success that’s it right there – be a doer and not only a hearer. I have the most success with mentees who are doers. And when they follow my instructions and do the work, they’ll achieve every breakthrough they’re seeking. It’s a guarantee. That makes for a great mentee: one who listens, receives the revelation and then acts on it. That’s the basics of being a winner. Hear and then do. Last week I mentioned that being a proficient listener wasn’t natural to me. It’s not natural to anyone. Look at toddlers. We are taught to listen by experiencing the positive rewards it brings. Great mentees hear, receive and do. Poor mentees choose otherwise and remain stuck. You're a poor mentee if you one who replies to advice given with comments such as, "I know, but ..." and "You don't understand what they did to me." You know what? I know they hurt you. I know what they did was wrong. The problem is you're the one dwelling on it instead of healing and thriving, and they're not. And you very well may "know" with your head what I speak to you, but you haven't implemented the revelation in your heart or life or you would be living abundantly and not in need of the deep work that I do. I’m a doer. A successful doer, not a spinning my wheels going around in circles because I refuse to change doer. Even when I don’t have someone else walking through a situation directly with me, I still do because I want the next level. Whatever that next level is. For example, I’m sacrificing sleep by working from 3 a.m. to 6 a.m. to get to the next levels in a few areas of my life. No one else is walking through this with me, no one else suggested I do it, but I’m doing it because I know I’ll get where I want to be in a specified amount of time. How do I KNOW I’ll get to the next levels? I know because I’ve made a similar sacrifice before and achieved the results I needed and also because actions have natural reactions and my actions are producing the reactions I desire. I’m not just doing to do. I’m focused and am performing a specific pattern of tasks that lead to specific results. I’m only about 33% of the way through my program and I’ve already experienced more breakthroughs than I can count. Become a doer. Stop just hearing and not doing and you will succeed. I'm a witness. When you're ready, schedule a call or book a mentoring package. If you need a custom package that we create together, that's perfectly fine. I do it all the time for clients whose budgets are in between one of the standard packages. The goal is to get you to a place where you're experiencing the life of your dreams because it is possible. Time flies, don't wait.    |
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